Season 17, Episode 16- How To ‘Grow a Pair’ As A Leader

 

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Dr. Alex Golden 

Hello, hello, this is Dr. Alex, I wanted to take one little moment to invite you to the opening of our Health Transformation accelerator program and it is open right now. It is open for a limited period because we open it twice a year. It is our 12-week transformational program, you can use it for any transformation you want to undergo, whether you’re starting out so working on your health, or you have healed and you are on your next mission to help heal the world. We got you it is for you. So, check out the link down in the show notes. You can also just go straight to zesty ginger.com/transformation, you can read all of the amazingness that is included in it exactly what we’re going to be doing for the 12 weeks. And you can even listen to and see the real transformational stories of the people that have gone through it. Now we do have the opportunity to hop on the phone with someone that has been in the program. So, reach out to us and shoot us an email if that is something that you are interested and we will get you the links to hop on the schedule for that. Also, we have amazing bonuses happening each day. So, it behooves you to join as early as possible because you get all the bonuses then. But no matter when you’re coming in, we’ll be announcing on Instagram so go to zesty underscore ginger and follow us over there turn on your notifications for the count because then we’re going to be announcing all of the amazing bonuses so that you make sure you don’t miss out on them. We are going to be so excited to start here shortly and we would love to see you there as well. We can’t wait to support you on your transformations because we know what that’s going to create in the world it creates magic creates healing, it creates wholeness and that is more of what we need. So that is what we’re going to do. We invite you to come on over and go to zestyginger.com/transform to sign up and we will see you there. Hi everybody we’re going to do live hot seat coaching today with my girls Stella she’s one of our clients and is a coach and a leader and someone who wants to make the world a better place and since that is what we’re all about, obviously then we are going to get right into it so we everything and anything is on there. Yeah amazing. Thank you for having me. Thank you so much for joining me. We’re going to do Yeah, that’s perfect. Coaching and because it’s lunchtime hour let’s just get right into it. Yeah, so what are you bringing to me today now just so everyone knows I have no idea what I was going to talk to me about today. This is not I don’t have not they don’t replay.

Stella 

Yeah, and we online coaching okay, what does it look like or what do I want to talk about? Yes, this is real time. I have been reflecting myself and trying to decide like what am I What is it that I want to work on? So many things have come up in the last few days and I feel completely sure that this is just the storm before it breaks through. Yeah, even like coming to the trying to get on that slide. I was actually on my phone, I thought I could get off the computer. And with all that commotion, that’s how like, temporarily I was locked out of my account, but recovered and here we are. So, resilience. We have that good. But yeah, I have been applying our first essay that I’ve been applying Things that were pointed out and made shining clear for me and the workshop that I took part in the VIP. Yes.

Dr. Alex Golden 

Yeah, and the three-part training you have anyone who anyone who’s listening along, you know, y’all get the invite for the three-part training for success habits. And then you all had the option to join the VIP and still was one of the people that joined the VIP. And so, there was special we did real-time hypnosis, we did real-time subconscious reprogramming, we had Q&A. So so that coaching on and so now, this is the new four-line, we’re more empowered stellar that’s coming on. So I love that you brought that up that’s where that’s the setup and the foundation. Now, if you’ve been tracking along on the podcast, obviously, you’ve been participating in the training portion and going throughout your you’ve gotten your workbooks and all that has, and I yeah, it’s been an eventful week, so

Stella 

I help on how I could know, or open the doors to abundance, financial abundance, because I already know how to do things free of charge. But I recognize that, as you pointed out, like, yes, not. knowledge needs to be received. You have its energy. Yes. And so when that Yeah. And so that when that is not the one that is missing? I recognize that like, yeah, it just keeps you at a certain level. And I’m like, okay, yeah, the result as well there. Is

Dr. Alex Golden 

there is the quality of the

Stella 

people that you attract, because.

Dr. Alex Golden 

Oh, yeah, actually, tell me a little bit about what’s happening there. Because we’ll know, you know, yeah. Here’s a pro app projection is perception is projection. And our community. No, so I’m planning so we’re the party you’re seeing. Sir.

Stella 

Okay. Yeah. So I would say two years, I have been, I had started, I’ve started my own business, but never really took action, you could say, I was just allowing the universe and totally trusting. And that was great. And it’s been it’s going well, there is a abundance flowing in there. But I was like, wait a minute, like, I look awesome. But the which you pointed out was, you gave me you shed some beautiful light on the fact that I was thinking that on my limiting belief was that I needed a website to be able to share what I do with people, because I want to do more than just show share Bach flower remedies and do consultations for because I’m based in Turkey. And so for people who are in other countries, I can do a consultation, and they can get their own remedies and mix make their own mixtures at this point, but I wanted to take it beyond that. And I kept telling myself, well, I need to have a website. But you pointed out that if you make a website when you’re not completely clear on what you want to share, yeah, who you’re talking to, and what you’re going to share

Dr. Alex Golden 

who you’re talking to, well, that’s you’re the how, what kind of people were showing up? Well, the

Stella 

most like within my business, and most people that I have gotten have been local. And I’m actually not just I mean with the Bach flowers at this point, because I am located currently in Turkey, although planning a move to the US soon. After this point, they’re located here and it’s more word of mouth or someone else tell someone else um, you know, and then I just tell them on the spot, but when it came down to actually connecting, and I’ve done a few consultations, you know, they come in with people. I have some clients in Texas and some in Washington State and different places. But each time I’m starting from zero explaining everything, and I’m like, and you pointed out like you have a great place to do this testing, Instagram, Tik Tok all of these places.

 

Dr. Alex Golden 

Yep, yes, exactly. We can use social media to interact with our clients. Because yeah, it’s so true. There are people that want to be leaders and they know their leaders. They know that they see the world differently and they want to help, that’s really the main Hallmark. And then with that, then you essentially begin to start the flow of things and you It’s kind of like driving down the highway is the vision is you kind of sometimes know where that full destination is. And sometimes it’s a little bit blurry, but you kind of generally know to point your car in that direction. But each time you take a step, you are driving the car further down the road. And the vision starts to get more clear, how do you do that? Interfacing with the people that you’re trying to help. So a lot of people sit back trying to create a website is trying to create their brand-like statements and their philosophies. And to be honest, they get stuck there. Because we’re not creating just for us, we’re creating for the world. And so with us with the world, and if we don’t go and interact with the world, this is not even the main topic of our discussion, because we’re gonna talk about money and abundance. But I’m just saying, once we, if we are not interfacing and interacting, putting things out there and getting that feedback, like, especially feedback, because like no one responded, Well, hey, that’s really important to you back again. And then, you know, keeping it moving, because then we allow the world to tell us. And when we can create something much more powerful, and we can create something that people really want to buy, and then you’re not sure yet how to think about being sleazy, or being pushy in your marketing and in your sales. Yeah. Whereas when we look at it like that, I am sharing what I do, and there is no hard sales, I’m just going to interface, I’m going to offer you something that I know you need. You’ve asked me for it, you told me that you needed it, I got you, well, then there’s really no sleazy sales involved. So I love that you’re bringing that up. And of course, with the abundance, then it sounds like it’s not necessarily the people, but the flow of it, which is a really important thing. And so where does the money come from? Right? Money comes from the money comes from the universe. So money, money is a construct that we have, most money exists in electronic form. And if everyone were to go and where to get what they thought there, they had in the money of what we’ve all agreed that we have in our bank account, we wouldn’t have enough actual hard physical money to give to anybody and the economy would collapse. And it happened in the Depression. So we have the money actually because that is kind of the illusion of money. And the reason it works is because we all buy into it. If we all read that, oh, yeah, this is artificial money, and we actually don’t have it in physical form, well, then we can play the game anymore. So since that’s true, we have to really watch our thinking around money, because if it is more of an energy currency that we are agreeing upon, then we can really change our perspective to a much more empowered place, right? So our money that we generate comes from who we are being in the universe, because if the money is flowing from the universe, then who we are, the embodiment of who we are in our identity, then creates the flow or not any misalignment in our energy and who we are being then is the crux of the actual block for money, right? Because otherwise, we would think it and it would happen, I think it would happen. But if there’s more to the story, then that’s really important. And so what are the things that can block the flow of money towards us? Well, if, for example, a big one is, if you don’t think you’re worthy of money, right? There’s lots of mental Gremlins that say, I need a work to produce and then I’ll be worthy of money. I’m not good enough to I don’t have the certification, so I can’t make the money. All of those beliefs, that sound should create kinks in our energy field, that then interrupt that flow and the conversation that says, who I’m being attracts the money and the money comes back. Well, that the where the in the process, that process is broken, is in the coming back to you. So you’re like 75% there, right? But it’s the misalignment of the broadcast that sent out that then creates what comes back? Right? Which is why for you knowing that I was like if the designer is trying to create a website, and you’re sitting there going, Gosh, I don’t know who I’m talking to yet. I don’t know exactly what I want to say yet. I don’t know who I’m being yet, then you’ll continue to sit there. And that’s the energy that will go out in the universe where, whereas if I once I said, Hey, there, she’s just trying to get in front of people. That means you can talk to people in the store, you can create a podcast, you can go on someone else’s podcast, you could do this with us and get people visiting your page, right? All of those things as long as you’re then willing to talk to them will create a lot of that movement and the flow will then continue more bidirectionally. So movement and action in general, is part of the reason Then both addressing your website, I was trying to get your money, which is cool. So then the flip side of that, right? Where do we focus when we’re asking ourselves to embody wealth consciousness then right? If we are opening the gates of money and abundance flow, then it takes, there’s some intentionality that it takes there because a lot of times it’s the back and forth, and they’re getting looped into different stuff that takes us a little bit away from our path. And so with wealth consciousness, we first have to recognize that if it is in when abundance come to us in response to who we are being, then we have the opportunity, and who were being much more often than we are seeing, because a lot of times people are like, I have an opportunity to generate money when I have clients or when I sell X or when I do Y. And so they will focus on that. And even when they go to addressing the belief, they’ll work on their crappy money, beliefs, they’ll visualize the money coming in, but see the ATM but the thing is abundance is more than money. And so as well. And so think about it from the universe’s perspective, it knows that the way that you get money is not just people paying you directly you can get gifted it, you could have be asked to go on a trip you could be, you know, there’s 1,000,010 ways that it perceives abundance. But if we don’t align ourselves with that greater vision and allow the universe to give to us and bless us with those things and actually be in a place of receiving, then we’ll get a little bit limited and even our efforts to visualize and do the hypnosis and well consciousness activities will be less effective, right? So we once we open our eyes to abundance, then it can be things like, Oh, look how many flowers are on that tree, like that’s crazy that nature can create that kind of abundance. Think about the sunshine, like today, and I’m in Texas sunshine this morning, it was very abundant, like I had to put on sunglasses, you know what I mean? Like I noticed the abundance in my life. Because I understand that that is part of the flow, the more that I accept those things. And that means that we can change our wealth consciousness in a second I say I’m grateful for this abundance of sunlight, I just made myself available for money. Right? And that’s so cool. Because our desires then tool this like for example your desire for money, consciousness and desire for money, then created a situation where Megan and I thought to do hot seats, right? You created this scenario cope with us and the universe and abundance flow to you because of that, right? Like you could get a client from this, you could have people visit your page from this. And so you’re putting you’re putting yourself in that position. And that’s what it looks like. So it it’s much more collaborative. And that means that we had much more opportunity to practice well consciousness than just tipping. Although, you know, I think those are great tips. Every time I go to the store, those are times to micro practice wealth, consciousness, right, making a decision, this feels best to me, not just I’m going to choose the cheapest, obviously understanding responsibility in your financial, you know, space, but sometimes Absolutely, mentally, yes, things and then I do that, too, is if I actually got it. And that is Yeah, and that’s a later practice while still way I was still not in consciousness. So that’s where you can do visualizations on Monday. And I do and I highly recommend it. I also have affirmations you know, we did that hypnosis in the VIP and there’s a lot more inside our Health Transformation accelerator program. And that is paired best with living the kind of life where you actually is kind of like praying all the time, you’re essentially noting and, and interacting with abundance around you and increasing and opening up the gates for that flow to happen. Right so you can be grateful for the weather grateful for that hug that your friend just gave you the convert the interesting conversation that you just had over dinner, like all of those things become wealth building activities. Because if wealth comes from who you are, being all those things are who you are being an abundance of love, if you have it to give can be a really powerful way to change the script. So anytime that I’ve been really in fear and fell, I’ve gone through it, you know what I mean? I moved across the country got divorced, all that stuff has happened. And I didn’t have actual resources. You know, like, at the time, there were snapshots where the bank account didn’t look good. But but when I If I could improve my life experience drastically and open up the floodgates by who I was being so going in the store and being nice to the checkout person smiling at the checkout or whatever, just strangers, that I had a lot to give, and that allowed it to flow by directionally. I cannot tell you how much faster I got back on my feet after all of that transitional stuff in life. And I thought, I really, I mean, everybody, practically, it was like, it takes a couple of years, statistically, we know within two, three years, people are back to where they started. And then after another year or two, they have surpassed it. I’m just about there. So it hasn’t been very long. So that’s why it sounds so simple. And that’s why most people won’t do it. They’re like, No, really let me go freak out about my money. But again, if you are not being someone who is abundant in all areas, you will not align with the universe. And since money, yes, the universe knows

Stella 

what you’re saying, because a lot of the points that you made, because over the years, I have taken part in many, in a number of I won’t say many, but I’ve taken part in life many times, but and in many different types of circumstances and survival and elements of like, like just before this live chat here, this live stream, like not knowing where things are going to go and just going okay, like, it’s, it looks like I was locked out of my account. And I was like, Okay, I guess I’m supposed to go into my other account. Okay. I know that whatever happens, it’s in alignment. For my best future, my best moment. But the thing that the takeaway actually that that I, eventually, it was me communicating also with the universe, because before I found out about your three day success, habits training, I was like, okay, okay, I need to expand. I need to work through another level, like, I have. Yeah, and I’ve got because I’ve gone from like,

Dr. Alex Golden 

here, you point and now that’s like, it’s amazing how I

Stella 

was just a housewife. Did I cut out? Okay. Okay, no worries. Little too much ago, I was at a place and I learned this, then there were two important moments, one of them was, okay, I, my flow was almost nothing, but I was like, you know, what, I’m going to drink a cup of simple thing, drink a cup of coffee in a coffee shop, without doing the math of, I can buy a three in one pack and drink 25 cups, or I can buy one in a coffee shop, you know, it was that this was 15 years ago, not. And the moment that I did that is every day I came home, I told my husband, this is the thing that I will afford no matter what, every month, once a month, I’m going to drink coffee in a coffee shop. going to enjoy it, I’m not going to, because it’s not in my nature to do the math of that kind of thing. But the people that I often have around me are very much focused on that. And so I’ve, so it was me regaining my power, coming back to that. And then the other point was probably about 10 years ago, when I began a life, a new life for myself. And after many different, like, step into the clouds don’t know where the ground is, but it will appear when you need it moments. And I had the realization, I had started a new job and my paycheck and my rent were like two weeks different, like my rent was due. And then two weeks later, I got paid. And I freaked out. I was just like, oh my god, like, because I you know, I mean, and then I went, Wait a minute, what’s the worst thing that could happen? Okay, they’ll throw you out on the street. And I was like, well, they throw a person like you who has full intention of paying the rent. No, and nothing ever happened, you know. And then from that moment, I gained that. So in these steps I have gained but the one thing that I realized in this week that the universe lines aligned me with you, and Megan, for the success habits training. And then the VIP which I had no plan of doing, but it was just like, okay, universe, I see it. You’re, you’re inviting me and if I don’t take to it, there’s a story that somebody told me once where someone’s drowning in the middle of the sea, and they say, goodbye. I want God to save me. And this big ship is coming by and they’re like, trying to save him and he’s like, no, no, no, I want God to save me. It’s like, you know, That’s so these moments and then yeah, and then I write in this time I began to meditate, which I, I’ve never been able to like squirrel mind all over the place, Gremlin voices, all of that. And I started, I had done like two days of meditation. And then I saw you guys thing and I joined that. And all of these things have happened. And then with the takeaways that I took from the VIP, three-day session, or three, three sessions, I actually have two clients who I am now mentoring. And I have an amazing thing. I was trying to post it like two hours before this, but managed to post it right before a real where I actually had my first meditation with no music, no assisted anything. And it was just like, Oh, I haven’t felt this feeling since I was a little girl. And it was like, and taking being because of the things that are free has helped me see was like, I think what I was doing is like seeing this great finished picture. And I’m good at doing that. But not being like enough in this moment and going and really being Yeah, and being an empath by always being focused on what everybody else is feeling. And in this past few years, it’s been like, Okay, you’re not feeling your own feelings. Because it’s, it’s an escape to help other people. But now it’s been like the, the, the coming together of two worlds that you guys like we’re part of it. And it’s really awesome. Because I watch you guys. Yeah, I mean, I will say this to you will look a completely different person than two or three years doing it, you’d like 10 years? Awful. I think so talking for me anyway. But like literally your whole everything I just want to say that was when I saw that. I was like, Okay, I’m ready to work with these ladies. Yes. Thank you. Both you and Megan.

Dr. Alex Golden 

Yeah, this transformation. So it’s really real, right? Like people talk about all the time. They’re like, You’re different now. And that was like just the year. And that’s what we say. It’s like, yeah, anybody can transfer. Anybody can help you transform. There’s a lot of people that do that. We’re just going to tell you how to do it faster, so that you can actually create the life that you want. Right? That’s the whole key here. And it can be done and yet. And here’s the thing, it’ll permeate every single part of your life because I don’t I don’t do fancy treatments. Like someone asked me the other day what I do. And I’m like, my favorite, honey and baking soda mix together. Amazing. But like, No, I don’t you know, I don’t do any other. Yes. It’s a translation of me changing my identity shows up from everything from my bank account to my car to my face to my clothes. I mean, lots of stuff change. So yeah, let’s talk about goals, then as part of that, because I’m not the universal flow and who are being we have very different goals, right? Because one is, first, we understand that we have to set goals if we are working collaboratively with the universe. And that includes the other people that are waiting and praying for us to give them the help that they need. Right, they are asking for it, then we first have to set the GPS, where we’re going. So we have to have the courage to set goals. First of all right? And to be clear on what that means. Now that time component is a little bit tricky for people. And that’s where I have people really feel into this where we use our emotional compass and say, If I interject time, can I have a light-handed approach to it? And I would say for someone struggling with that time of like, I need it now I need it in the year it needs to happen in a year I’m a failure. I would write goals from a perspective of what do I want to experience in my life. And I would write I would literally write like 1000, I would challenge you to write 5000. What do you want to see? What do you want to hear? Who do you want to meet? Who do you want to date? What do you want to eat? Where do you want to go? Do you want to read what kind of hotel write them all down and write why you want them because that will put you powerfully into that embodied state and every time you read it, which I highly recommend consistently is like my whole life. This is what I it’s not a wish list. It’s the I’m crafting this life and this is what I’m calling in and all of the abundance is there and all the funds and the joy and the connection and the love all of it begins to build so you’re struggling with time and in the gold component that can often get you out of that. However, as you become more empowered, you will have the strength and the power to say I’m going to set this goal knowing that it is unknown. And I’m going to approach it with flexibility and curiosity. Because honestly, you can say, I’m going to make a million dollars by the end of this year, what if the universe couldn’t get that done in three months? You know, can we set that and say, I’m going to be open for three months, I’m going to be open for two years. Because what if the ship that I’m leaving the people that are going to be on there aren’t ready in three months, they’re not ready in a year, but because I don’t know that I’m not going to pigeonhole myself and that and so the way that I do it is I have ordered my quarterly goals as a personal quarterly goals that I have year goals, and, and greater, I have five year goals and 10 year goals. And the purpose of each of those is that I have reasonably picked them for based on how I feel which one I think is the most appropriate, but I do have the understanding, then I go into it, the intentionality of when I put these goals down, I understand that I have a light tight, so I say God be nice for this year. But if it happens tomorrow, boom, I win the lottery Gray, or in 13 months, that’s going to be okay to write. And so as you develop that, but that there’s more of a tolerance for the unknown and intolerant or keeping yourself steady when you’re on a boat, and you’re in the ocean, right, and it’s rocking. When you begin to create more power, or more of the, the rocking. And that’s why interjecting time into the goals there. That can be the way to do it. And so with ultimately, we end up with smart goals where you do set a date, you practice visualizing, dropping the goal into the timeline on that date, you do actually embody you do act as such, you align your daily actions and habits with it. Yeah. And then also you understand that that is a flexible moving target. So with goals and time, that’s kind of how I like to play at it. And really, the brain and the subconscious translates images and to real-time world because you have to, like we talked about in the training, you have to pare down the information coming in, if you took in every background thing, every color, every light, every sensation, your skin on clothes, you just go insane. So we have to filter it out. So you will set the filter and run it the whole time based on localizing it to that vision of who you’re being. And then the universe will have so many opportunities to shower you with that abundance. Understand that what you’re seeing today is a snapshot of what you created in the past. So if you say, Well, today, I’m being this, why isn’t it here, you’re mismatching the concept of times, right? And since time, just like money is more of an illusionary thing. But we still have to play with it, we have to understand what’s happening otherwise time little buggers, right. It’s not an illusion When your friends do. So, you know, I’m a big fan of like honesty and authenticity for that. And so we merge it together. So with goals and time, that’s the way that I love to do it. And let’s talk about the unknown real quick, right? They’re empowered leaders have resources to tolerate and handle and move themselves through unknowns. Because one, we don’t have certain guarantees in life. And two, we are so dominant in our participation of it, that we can determine it as we go. And then other people will also have their free will. And they determine it as they go, right. And so I love what you were saying like You’re like you change your journey, you’re like, I normally wouldn’t have done this. But if I be this kind of person, let’s see what happens. Because all that you said, I don’t know the future. But I can have a hand in creating it. If I actually Participant I say, I’m investing in myself, then boom, you just attracted to other people that invest in themselves. So the universe even doubled it for you. And then every time you go and do that and make a decision, that’s exactly what’s going to happen as long as you’re doing it from that space. So the unknown becomes a lot less known when we understand the role that we get to play and actually tell ourselves a story that empowers that, yeah, I will determine the clients, I will determine how much I charge I will determine that. Now. You’re not alone in that, but you do have a lot of power. So acknowledging and standing in that power is a cool thing about the unknown. The flip side of that is that there are some situations where you really just don’t know how it’s gonna go. Right? And you aren’t going to know until it gets there and you just have to wait. But, but we don’t leave that alone because honestly, the thing Is that the mental Gremlins do in that time can be incredibly damaging, it’s not the thing to kind of let go of and to say, Hey, I’m gonna wait for it to unfold. Because if you are part and parcel and CO creating with it, it’s not a good idea to leave yourself on the attended and the freaking out of waiting for something to be known, right? I didn’t actually know how divorce stuff was gonna go. But I needed to be in an empowered state so that when I had the opportunities to impact what I could, I took them instead of melting down and crying in bed, which is, you know, I did do that a lot. But it wasn’t all the time. And so with that, how do we get resourced enough to wait? Well, that looks like being both the inner child that is experiencing the waiting process and having a problem with it. And the parent that is, understands the bigger picture and understands the perspective of I am creating a future that has not been created yet. Right? And so how does one do that? Because it’s hard to throw the tantrum, temper tantrum as a kid, and also support yourself as the adult at the same time. But you can do it. And it’s easier, much easier to do it in sequence. So what does this look like? It looks like actually sitting down and journaling on the process of when I am disappointed by the expectations that I had. I said three months and now is three months in one day, and I still don’t have what I want, right? Or it’s two months, and it’s not looking good. What do I do? You’re basically creating a protocol for yourself that says, How will I help my inner child get expressed and supported? And then how do I allow my inner and higher self to lead me and be supported and doing so? So this journaling exercise looks like what do I need to do the temper tantrum? You know, with kids during temper tantrums? Are you supposed to interject and do a life lesson during the temper tantrum? No, no, right? Because they can’t hear you. That’s the time for support. So ask yourself, what does it look like for me to actually not gaslight myself, to really give myself a valid voice? It’s, it’s scary not having money. It’s scary, not knowing when the next line is gonna come? It’s scary not knowing how you’re going to pay your bills, it feels terrifying. So honestly, to lie about that, and to say, Oh, let me just work on my mindset and slap on some positivity. It ain’t it. And so we have to say, how do I really acknowledge and give validity to the experience that I’m having? Because it is true for me? Right? So that’s gonna be the first part of that, and really eliciting answers from yourself, and being willing to try things out whatever your mind comes out with being like, Sure, I’ll try it out. And if you like it, keep doing it. And if you don’t like it, you don’t have to do it that way in the future. So that’s one piece of it. And then the next piece comes down to okay, then once I invented out doing that, once I have expressed once I allowed the motion to move me that and what is what am I? What’s my understanding from all of this as it happened? Because it may be what is our emotional compass points towards doing things differently. Maybe realizing that a coping strategy or a strategy that we used to do isn’t working anymore? Maybe it’s I need to have a discussion with somebody, maybe I need to set a boundary, maybe I need to try a new plan. Maybe I need to stop doing that thing. I don’t know. But there’s a reason that you have that temper tantrum. And so your parent is going to be the one to learn what that and garner what it actually is, what is it pointing you towards? What do you need? And that real question is, how can I feel supported throughout this process? How do I create support for myself and that may mean, asking for help from people, it might mean hiring mentors, and a lot of things can happen. But this is that’s the magic of taking the unknown, using our emotional compass, giving ourselves leeway to be authentic and actually embody who we are, because of who we are. And the one that’s attracting money from the universe is also sometimes negative. Because that’s authentic to you. Right? So it is your authenticity that attracts and so having a moment where you give yourself the freedom to really acknowledge what’s going on for you and to have those emotions, incredibly powerful. Some of my most notable face-melting cry sessions on the ground of my bathroom were then followed by influxes of money. It’s fascinating, and I I had to prove to myself just how much authenticity was how I made money, not just positivity, making money and inventing out and then getting the lesson getting what do I want to make this mean? How do I want to look at this? And then again, using our emotional compass, Which story do I tell myself that empowers me the most? And that may not be the fully done story where you’re like, I’m the most abundant person on the planet, and money flows to me so easily, because maybe you’re not there yet. But maybe it looks like I’m getting better and better at managing my money. I’m more and more confident each day that I have, I can help people on this planet, right? Having narratives like that, that are believable and don’t overstep, then, to really make sure that this is happening, you know, and so anyways, this is all this is all exactly, you know, in line with, with what you’re saying. And I love that you are letting the experiences come up, because you are taking full advantage of the unknown, you’re being who you’re being by taking action. But then the universe then gets to bring more things that align with you. And it’s really, really easy to tell which one that is, right? Because you didn’t have to think about it a long time. That’s, that’s a clue that you are in alignment is that you know, the one

Stella 

the thing that you said no question, right? hadn’t made this connection. But I see because I already have experienced this, but not with making money. But actually with attracting my husband. The love of my life. So what I did before that was yes, I was at the time I was single. I was in Santa Fe, New Mexico. And Santa Fe, like, is known for not having very many men and it was like perfect place for me to really find myself and like, find strength. Yeah. Really? Yeah. I mean, like, I was, like, let me go. For somebody to come pick me up. And some lady looks at me and she goes, Are you single in Santa Fe too? And I was like, What do I have it written on my head? She’s like, all the beautiful women are if single in Santa Fe. And so then it just made me you know, and I was like, yeah, yes, I am. chosen this. I’ve chosen to be this. It was really good for me. But then I started once I started to kind of feel grounded and like, okay, maybe, maybe I because I went through a period, a period of time that it was like, I do not need a man, I don’t need anything. I am going to make money and travel the world and do whatever I want. Having a partner, like will just hinder me. But then I started thinking

Dr. Alex Golden  

yeah, I love the years. It was like authentic fun plan. We’re gonna go Yeah, because I

Stella 

know I am so like, having a knowing that site, but I was like, why don’t need that. So then I was like, I started thinking well, but what happens when I’m lonely one day because that is something that is probable after a while, you know? And I was like, oh, but if I Okay, let me be prepared. I started asking everyone that I saw happy married couples happy in love people whatever. Like what How did you know what did you do beforehand, blah, blah, blah. And everybody’s like, well, you have to figure out first what you want and who you want. It’s just exactly what you’re saying with the financial side. But I never actually gave myself the permission but with love I did take that I set for days

Dr. Alex Golden 

and that’s beautiful because you if you do it all at once that’s what I was saying was there are so many opportunities for abundance if you don’t just do it with money but do it with everything that you want to experience you need to have money to experience it the money will be in now you don’t include money in goals from it. But yes, exactly what you’re saying it’s so true. Because yeah, like

Stella 

at that point in my life, like the money was not an issue. I had my house everything that I wanted in my house even like I thought about like now, looking back, I can understand why I did that understanding like with looking at North and South nodes what our soul wants, I could see then that like being a tourist South Node, I had invested everything in my house, but then that’s what made me start because everything I had all of the material things. But then I started to realize I started to realize that well if there is a day that I end up shooting They’re wanting to share my life with somebody, what do I want, I don’t want to fall in love with the wrong person, like, I’ve been built so many things, and I’ve got this abundant flow in my life. And so I started writing in a journal. And I wrote for four days, and it ended up being four pages long. And each day I would add to it, like, I want a man who is bla bla bla bla bla, I want a man. And I went down to details of like, I mean, it’s interesting when you’re actually being authentic, and really tuning into what it is not from your brain, but from your face. It makes no sense why I wrote it. And one of the things I wrote, I don’t want a rich man, I want a man who will can’t become rich with me, because I don’t want to feel extra. I want to be, I want to know that we grew together, I don’t want to ever doubt my worth. And like it was strange at the time. Now I can look back and I can see all of the growth that I’ve gone through and all of these different things. But I mean, yeah, it’s it’s really powerful when you can actually show up and four days after that, of writing for pay. My husband wrote me, we met online. And he had written it added me six months before, but I was just like, like, not, I didn’t want to talk to any man at that point in time. And then he says hello to me, four days after that. And I’m not connecting anything. But we like to start chatting, and we chat for nine months. And he liked it didn’t flirt. And he didn’t like he was so different and had everything that I had on that four pages. So now you’re inspired me connected. That is the same thing.

Dr. Alex Golden 

I can say I would. Yeah. Yeah. If now this time, you’re being asked to take it to a higher level what you did you prove to yourself that you did it with the one topic and live. See what it looks like to blow it out and see yourself expanded and identify in all areas. You’re like, boy, you’re going to be across the board. Make that list. Now we’ll see what happens. Because it’s gonna be amazing. And we’ll have to repeat follow. excited to hear that yeah, I would love to wear you. Yeah.

Dr. Alex Golden 

Thank you for the badge. Oh, sorry. I just decided that. Thank you so much. Yeah, I’m so just a little wonky there. I’m sorry.

Stella 

But yeah. Oh, God. That viewpoint, especially being a manifesting generator, because one eye everything that I hate I’m working on it actually is for a big picture. It’s for showing up in me and all of the facets and you’re putting it that way. I really appreciate that. And I was exactly.

Dr. Alex Golden 

Yeah, perfect. It’s funny how it aligns. Right. You already popped out.

Stella 

And it’s like, watch you guys. Yeah. To connect and then and that you’re in Dallas. I just went yeah. So I imagine. I know. So fun. Yeah, exactly.

Dr. Alex Golden 

I know lots of transformation. Yeah. I’m excited to see you here. All right, well, it’s gonna boot us off here for Instagram. But for those of you coming on. Just a reminder, this is going to be going on the podcast. It’ll be published tomorrow though. Go on sassy ginger wherever you listen to podcasts and go back and check out the three-part training that Stella was just talking about if you missed it, and then also go check out zestyginger.com/transform, it’s well pinned right there. You can see basically, in this life coaching, we were breaking down parts of the seven steps for transformation and applying them and so our Health Transformation accelerator now that name is changing because it’s not just for health but the that those 12 weeks break down the seven steps in that sequential format so you can see about how that works on that page three ginger comm slash transform. And then the other side is at the bottom, you can see videos from people who have gone through it and their experiences. So you can actually see the transformations there. And finally, you can also reach out to us and shoot us an email support@zestyginger.com , because what we have is people that have gone through the program We’re willing to hop on the phone and answer any questions that you have. We get that it’s, you know, one thing coming from Megan and I, because we made it, obviously, we think it’s great. But we wanted to give you all the experience of talking to the people who have gone through it firsthand. And we, you know, we don’t tell them what to say, we’re not on there, like, we have no control over that. They’re just gonna tell you what their experience has been like, and you’re gonna hear about a coach and get all your questions answered. Okay. So if you’re interested, but still have concerns about whether it’s a good fit for you or whether it’s right, all of that, just shoot us an email, and we’ll get you all taken care of. You’re welcome, Krista. I’m excited to see you. And I know you’ll be joining us. Okay, any other questions from anyone else? To? And if not, thank you so much. This was lovely. Thank you for bringing that thank you for being vulnerable. Fire to come back with an amazing service. Definitely. Stronger for the Yeah, for this.

 

Stella 

The upgrades and all of that.

 

Dr. Alex Golden 

The results? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, that’s a good place to leave off on. So thank you for bringing that up. I would say we all deserve to create the kind of life that we want to live in. If you right now are questioning whether you deserve it. I’m here to tell you, yes. You deserve to have a life that feels good, that is joyful, that is abundant that as what all the wells that you want, that is actually what you deserve, and what life should be like. So if that’s not the case, figure out find out and learn how to transform. So check out zestyginger.com/transform. And we are always here to help and always here to guide. And obviously you see a lot of what happens with us. And you know, it’s a good time. So we want everybody to be joining us over on this side of the empowerment plan. Journey. All right. Thank you. Thank you. Yeah, all right. Well, buddy, have a good day. I found those Zesty Ginger girls in my search online to figure out what was going on with some hormone imbalances and fertility issues that I was having. And I joined their healthy hormones group I learned so much I made so many strides in my health and my cycle, and just learned a lot of different tools and things that I could use. And then when they came out with their HTA program, I joined their HTA program. And I learned that so much more of what I was missing was the subconscious part. The subconscious is in control of almost everything that we do. And I learned so many tools for reprogramming my subconscious, letting go of limiting beliefs, and started dropping things in my timeline, and watching them come to fruition. And I won one of our sessions dropped a baby in my timeline, and realized a few months later that I was pregnant. So anything is possible when you tell your unconscious mind what it is that you want, and you have the tools to help reprogram it and support yourself into to getting to where it is that you want to be. And that was a pretty amazing experience for me and realization was pretty powerful. So anything is possible.