Have you ever been in a situation where you were able to help someone? And have you ever been in a situation wherein you were the one who needed help?
Today’s episode is all about asking for help and community. Megan talks about how having a balance of giving and receiving creates a life of possibilities.
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Transcript:
Dr. Alex Golden
Welcome to the zesty ginger podcast. We are Megan and Dr. Alex. We are here for transformation. Yours, ours and the collective, personal and professional for practitioners. But not just any transformation, compassionate transformation. Because between the two of us, we have seemed to have done things the painful way. Let our pitfalls become your stepping stones. We aren’t afraid to share our raw and vulnerable truths in order to help you transform your thinking, your body, your heart and your soul. Combining 15 years of functional medicine, with brain based habit change to lead you to the best life possible in a compassionate way. Compassion Yes, yet plan to roll up your sleeves. transformation requires your participation. And a quick reminder, this information is not meant to diagnose, manage or treat disease. Always consult with your doctor, not this doctor before making changes. Now let’s get into the episode.
Megan Blacksmith
Hey there friends, welcome back to part nine of our series of possibility for your jump jumping in here and you’re new to this series, or you haven’t listened to part one through eight. Go back now. We’ll wait for you. We’ll be here. I’ll be here. Go check it out. It goes in order. There’s a reason there’s a workbook check it out. Okay. So Alex would love this show. She’ll love it when she hears it. Because it’s a solid dad joke. And Alex was a piano major. Did you all know that Alex was a piano major, before she shifted into premed because of her own horrible health journey and how she was treated in medicine. How she was treated as a patient. Yeah. So you know, she told me, she used to play the piano ear. But now she uses her hands. You’re welcome. All righty go head on over to XSD jitter.com. Forward slash possibility, if you do not have the workbook yet, in today is about asking for help and community in my model of the world being able to receive as well as being able to give leads to a life of possibilities. Amen. It is important to be able to receive I say that because in the circles we work with, it’s more often a problem with the receiving there’s a lot over giving a little martyr, dum going on, you know, there’s gonna be time in places in your life where you need support. Okay, and my belief is that if you don’t accept help, when you need it, you’re actually robbing someone of an opportunity to give, to only give and not receive, there will always be an imbalance of energy. This is a circle someone has to give someone else to receive. What if someone else is not willing to accept help, unless they have given and you don’t allow them to give to you? And then they need help, but they can’t ask for it because they don’t feel worthy of help. Do you see that circle? Let me give you an example. I was stuck one time. You know, my mom lives downstairs. I have lots of good friends where you know if I ever and my husband right now is working from home and retired. So you know if I ever need help with getting kids to and from school, it’s not a problem, although he was away. And my mom wasn’t here. And I had to reach outside of my circle of comfort to ask somebody, I was like, I was stuck. I was like, I couldn’t pick her up. I was like, geez, okay, normally, I was like, this is normally that hard. Because I had someone else at school, I knew I needed help with a ride with their children. And when they were not asking for help, and I’m like, why aren’t they asking for help, I would have picked them up. And then when I was in the position, I realized I was like, Oh, it’s a little bit different and vulnerable when you’re on the other side. And you have to ask, so I actually reached out outside of the circle of people who I’d normally help and I was like, Hey, I’m in a pickle, are you willing to help me? And they were like of course and helped me easily and then you know what happened? That mom a week later and she let me know this she called and asked me for help now she had never asked me for help before. And she said to me she said the only reason I was okay with it was because you asked me a while ago. So me actually asking had given her permission to reach out to me or someone else to get help. So modeling the fact that we can get help modeling that it’s okay, we’re all going to need it some time is actually super, super helpful to someone else. And remember, I know it’s hard when you’re in the position of needing help and you’re feeling like oh my gosh, maybe have a lot going on your life and you feel like it’s one thing after another and you’re like I cannot ask again. I have a good friend here who lives locally near me who got into a car accident recently. And we’re the kind of friends where we’ve, that we’re both military. So we’ve kind of crossed paths, many times we first met, we lived together in Hawaii, well, not together, we both lived in Hawaii at the same time. And so we’ll see each other and then we probably won’t talk for three or four months. And then we’ll one day call up and see each other again. And right now we live both live in Virginia Beach. And I had seen her maybe six weeks ago. And we had lunch and she was doing great. And then just like two weeks ago, I got a call from a friend saying, I’m really worried about our friend. And I’m like, why she was great. I just saw her a month ago. And she’s like, Megan, she was in a horrible accident. And I had no idea. And this bothered me like a lot. This bothered me later. And of course, it’s not the person who got in an accident. It’s not their job to tell me not on social media. And I hadn’t called right, like I add inject in week because that’s just not the timeline. Of course, I felt totally guilty about that. And she even said, she’s like, she said, Well, what am I going to do call you up and let you know, I’m in an accident? And I’m thinking, Yes, please, yes, please call me up, let me know. Because I would have loved to help, although, at the end of the story, in a way, and I’ve heard this from many people before that often, when something happens, it’s pretty tragic. In the very beginning, there’s a lot of people coming to help you and making you meals and wherever or when people have a baby, I’ve heard this. And then right when you get to like the six week, two month, three month mark, where you’re still really needing a lot of support, and people have kind of, you know, they’re not there to help as much. I was like, Well, I guess I’m coming in right now where I’m like, Alright, let’s do this. What can I bring? What can I do when I went and sat with her for the day when her husband was going somewhere, and I was able to just bring her food and bring her bone broth and collagen and super healing foods and things. And anyway, I just share the story, because I was actually upset that I couldn’t help her that I didn’t know to help her. And there’s nothing on her, you know, she was just not in a position to tell me. But let’s say like, you knew you needed help. And you didn’t ask, you could actually the other person could really, really want to, I was like I would have loved to have known I would love to have come down and she’s like to sit here and be with you. And so on the other end, it’s helpful to remember from both sides that it actually people do want to give and be helpful because think about you if you know you like to give them be helpful, but remember that that flow is important. Okay, everybody here, can you say out loud? Yes, Megan, I will receive learning to receive is important. I heard this said on the plane the other day, or like if you were in the middle, if you were sitting in the middle seats, you get the armrest, both of them, they’re like we’ve all been in this position, please extend them that courtesy. That’s our role on this plane. And I love that. And that’s what our communities like because sometimes you’re in a place where you’re in the middle, right? Surround yourself with people who are willing to give you the armrest and ask for it when you need it. And also remember to extend the same to them when you’re in that position. Okay, thank you for listening today. As always, we will end with possibility and I want you to remember if you want to wire this in a bit faster, rewiring the brain takes repetition. So go ahead and upgrade to the free series you can purchase our daily hypnosis audio at zesty ginger.com forward slash meditations. So without further ado, some possibility.
Unknown Speaker
My name is Emily and if you are wondering if you should sign up for the transformation accelerator coaching program take this as a sign that the answer is yes. I really don’t know what it was that made me pull the trigger on the program. I’ve been a follower of Megan and Alex and zesty ginger for a long time I’ve done some other programs. But on this one I really didn’t know what NLP was or Qt T. I think my subconscious was telling me that I needed this for myself, even though the conscious message was hey, go check this out, you’ll gain more tools to help your current clients. I’m a health coach and a nutritional therapy practitioner. And that’s what I thought I was going for. I thought everything was fine with me. And in fact, I wore a shirt the first day that said everything is fine over and over again. I was ignoring my feelings. I was pushing back any thoughts that I thought might get in the way of things that I wanted to do. And the truth was during this training using some of these incredible tools, we uncovered that I had a limiting decision that I don’t matter and we were able to uninstall that and replace it with the truth. That limiting decision had been affecting every single area of my life. I have a job that I love where I’m asked to give frequent presentations but I’m always shaky or was about them now I am able to present confidently, I was asked to give a surprise presentation at work last week. And I nailed it gained three new clients, and was asked by multiple people how to sign up for my next talk. I was asked by my counselor who I’ve seen for over a year, what I was doing to stand so much in my power and be more myself than she’s ever seen. My friends have noticed the change. And best part is, and this sounds funny to say this is the best part. But I was able to realize and come to terms peacefully with the fact that I have been living in survival mode in my marriage in a way that’s not really authentic to how I want to be to the person I want to be. And I gained tools to set boundaries and move forward positively and confidently, in a direction and a way that will benefit not only me, but the rest of my family, including four amazing kids. I just really can’t overstate the benefit that this training has brought to my life. And hopefully I will be able to No, not hopefully, I will pass this on to my clients and anyone else I can.
Megan Blacksmith
Thanks for coming out to hang with us on the podcast. It is our goal to transform the way women are treated in healthcare. And we need your help. We need your help to get the word out. We have a lofty goal of 1 million downloads. And we know that as this podcast grows, we’re going to be able to reach more women get more amazing speakers for you and bring the most cutting edge information.
Dr. Alex Golden
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